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A Terrible Experience

Recently, a friend’s daughter was rushed to the hospital and ended up on life support with a blood infection. I felt so terrible for her and began to cry every time I thought of even texting her to send my prayers. I decided she did not need me there since there were plenty of family and friends much closer than I. Almost a week went by with all of us getting updates via text or call from someone in the family. On the 6th day I woke up and felt the need to go down to the hospital and sit with them and see if I could offer something to help them through the pain. I arrived at the hospital to look into the faces of both parents with horror. They had been through hell and I needed to put on my “game face.” I was a success, allowing them to share the horrific story of what had happened and exactly what was their future. Both scenarios were not good. If this 25 year old happened to survive, she would be hospitalized for up to a year, needed multiple surgeries on organs that were damaged, and at this point,  not knowing how much brain damage there was, the possibility of relearning life all over again. Or, she would pass away, and leave them empty the rest of their lives wondering why this happened to them. Not a win-win at all. The doctors needed to scan her body and see the intensity of the damage from head to toe from this blood infection. I joined them to see what was happening in the room while they prepared to move her. I did not even make it into the cubical since they were trying to get all of the life support machines and everything else ready for the move. I was horrified! In my life and all I had been through and all of the patients I have visited, I had never seen anyone so very ill that there were multiple tubes from everywhere keeping her alive. I lost my composure and to my horror was being consoled by her mother. Yes, I was unable to control my emotions and lost it. Yes, I am human and the thought of what this child was going through and actually seeing it made me break down to nothing. It only took a few moments for me to get back to some kind of clear headedness and again sat with them to try to wait for the results. I eventually had to leave and was promised to be updated asap. My sadness followed me through the day and a few hours later was called to find out she had no hope of survival and they were going to take her off life support. Again I was saddened for their sadness and pain and this young lady passed shortly after my call. I know she is at peace now and I also know she wants her family to mourn her and try to move on. Her suffering is now over and her pain has stopped. Rest easy child, so sorry for all of this in your very short life. file00028005054