When it comes to dealing with bad news– whether this pertains to illness, financial issues, family problems, or something else catastrophic– many do not know how to best prepare and cope with the situation. How do you “simplify” matters like this enough to process them?
When we are faced with these types of situations, our first gut reaction is to panic, cry, and maybe even scream. And that’s okay! But as soon as possible, we need to try to regain our composure and remain calm so that we can rationalize what is happening around us. Now I know this is easier said that done, but for many parents and loved ones of sick children, this is key to helping our child understand and remain calm. They need to see hope in your eyes in order to feel secure and have hope themselves.
It may help for you to write out your thoughts and feelings, or even make a “list” of possible scenarios and outcomes so that when or if a crisis arrives, you have had a chance to think things through and at least are not left saying, “I just don’t know what to do next!”. Being prepared mentally and physically is a way to remain calm and will help relieve some of the stress around you.
And, if you cannot do this on your own– don’t be afraid to reach out to others to help. Sometimes those around you simply do not know what to do but want to help lighten your burden. Let me know some of your ways for coping with the stress and chaos around you and if you have any other ideas that may work for others in your same situation!
